Hi Lunies!
I just thought I'd pop in here -- I do not usually frequent the Roundtable Discussions, have very rarely done so, but every once in awhile I will read up on some of the discussions just to catch up on some news with some of the familunies, but rarely do I post. It's nothing at all personal, but it's just not a thread I've contributed to much in the past.
I come here today because I wanted to express my concern about something and felt this might be the best place to do that, so that any/all lunies reading this thread will be able to see it (that is, assuming lunies still do visit this place, the moon

).
For those of you who have facebook accounts, you will understand that lately there have lots of changes with facebook -- Timeline -- a new feature that facebook has forced on all its users, despite the fact that there is not one single fb user who has a good thing to say about it. However, it's something that is inevitable I suppose and when using a "free" account, there's not much we can do about it -- we can either take it or leave it (facebook, that is). Many have chosen to stay, but don't seem to hang around much any more -- but it's difficult to know that for sure, because Timeline doesn't always show you what the latest information is.
Awhile back (a few years now, maybe) when fb was becoming the new thing, many lunies created accounts and there are many of us who chat over there, etc., Facebook has some neat features and have the ability to create fan pages, groups, etc.,
Back in the early days of facebook, a group was formed for the lunatics -- it was a way for lunies to chat in a somewhat private matter, off of the moon. I was initially a member, looking forward to the opportunity to meet and chat with lunies outside of the moon. Very early on, due to some tumultous times here on the moon, several of the lunies used the fb group discussions to discuss what was happening here and vent about their dislikes of certain people here, etc. (Please know, I'm not criticizing any of this, but just giving the history here).
I felt at the time that whenever I went to the group discussion (during those early days), it was not what I had expected and it was not what I wanted in a group discussion -- it was a lot like "us" vs. "them" and honestly, it is not something I have ever participated in my life in any manner of speaking. If I ever feel that is what's taking place, I simply choose to remove myself from that behavior -- not in any kind of self-righteous manner, but just as my own self-preservation -- if I do not know about people's good or bad qualities (second-handedly), then I will not need to judge or worry about it. I have always much preferred to learn about people and their personalities through my own self and my own contact with them. I always expect others to treat me the same way, but that isn't always the case, but again, I cannot own what isn't mine -- I cannot ask a person to treat me with respect if they choose not to; it's all up to the individual.
So, shortly after being a member of the group, I withdrew from it. I sent a note to the administrator explaining that I had nothing at all against any of the members and I was not excluding myself in any "better than thou" manner -- I just didn't wish to participate in the group as it was.
Over the course of time, I have actually often forgotten about the fact the group page existed. Every now and then it would pop up in discussions here and it would be mentioned that that is where all of the good lunies went when this place went to hell. It was then that I realized that the group does still exist, but again, I didn't give it much thought.
I have always said this and say it still, "I come to the moon for Peter Gabriel first, foremost and lastly. The fact that I have made many friends here during this time is an absolute plus and I'm grateful for it, but I have always kept my perspective about why I come to the moon, why I listen to PG, why I attend his shows, why I have such great respect for him as a person -- he's a very decent human being who happens to have a shitload of talent and is very generously sharing his life with us -- those we do not even know! It's surely an honor to be able to connect with so many others who share the same opinions, but if I were the only person here on the moon (which these days it often feels as if I am), then so be it. As long as Peter wants to continue, then I'll be there listening, watching, enjoying."
There have been numerous times when not being a member of the facebook group has proven to be quite detrimental -- in that, often times, discussions are held, plans are made that include only the members and because I'm not a member (and I'm not complaining about it), I have been excluded from some of the things that I might have been interested in joining in. Again, my not being a member of the group had nothing to do with how I felt (or still feel) about the members).
Sometimes during heated moments here on the moon and even in some discussions on facebook, I have referred to some of the "elitists" here and during those times I would receive messages, etc., apologizing, explaining and defending their status and that no one was acting as an elitist, no one was intentionally excluding me or anyone else from the group. It's always worked out and there are absolutely no hard feelings about anything whatsoever -- so be certain that when you (whomever you might be) read this post that you know that and accept it as true. I am still the same person I have always been and I still know and love all of you (well, those of you whom I've had the pleasure of knowing and loving

), but the truth remains the same -- the facebook group does have its advantages for those who wish to keep communicating with each other and don't wish to come to the moon any longer; it also has its disadvantages -- which is why I've come to write this (Whew!!! Took me long enough to get to the point, didn't it?!)
A few weeks ago, I saw a very brief, one-line comment made by one of my favorite, most loved lunatics. It was written on facebook and all I could infer from the comment was that there had been a loss in her family -- I had no idea who the person was, when it had happened and based on a very few comments, I could only tell that something had happened. I made a brief comment, offering my condolences but honestly didn't know who I was talking about and was definitely too embarassed to ask on the wall. I blamed it on the timeline thing on facebook and cursed it once again!
A few days ago, I read yet another comment by this same lunatic and it again mentioned someone else in her family passing away. I truly was worried and couldn't find anything anywhere that helped me to know more. So, I made a comment and then decided to send a private message.
I explained that I was very sorry, but I thought the timeline thing on facebook was really fucking up things (as it is, I have missed many posts written on my wall from my friends and family) and I very sheepishly asked her what had been going on. I explained to her that I hoped she knew that I would never ever ignore something so important in her life. Fortunately, she wrote me back, explained what had happened in her family over the past few weeks and thanked me for my support. I'm so glad to know that our friendship goes way beyond any facebook group or discussion. I'm happy I had the guts to just ask about it.
As it now turns out, the fact is that the lunatic group carry on discussions (much like the roundtable, I suppose) and it's apparently very active. I do not need to be a member of the group, and all of the members can choose to share whatever information they please -- be it gatherings, events, funny stories, sad times, hard times, fun times -- but please keep in mind that not everyone is aware of what's going on and therefore, cannot share in your discussions, fun times, hard times, sad times.
Please know that l do hope that everyone in the familunie is doing well and wish all of you a great spring and summer. If you're getting to see PG in May, I'm super happy for you and hope you share your good times with us here on the moon. I'm such a die-hard and will not ever give up on this place, despite some of the "best" lunatics (as one person put it) having already done so. I may not be the best lunatic, but lunatic I am . . . until the end!
Thanks for allowing me to take up so much space at the Roundtable today -- hope to read more and more lunies here on the moon someday soon!
Kind regards to all